tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post85938317874302484..comments2024-03-27T11:18:30.388+00:00Comments on Becky Bedbug: On being an introvertBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00954032264773780641noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-74505324700026523292014-10-08T21:58:43.303+01:002014-10-08T21:58:43.303+01:00I'm not for a second suggesting people are lyi...I'm not for a second suggesting people are lying or making it up, but I think a lot of people are self-diagnosing and that's very dangerous. I'm not entirely sure I believe that everyone blogging about their anxiety has been diagnosed and therefore they could inadvertently be spreading myths and inconsistencies. Especially in the case of young, teenage bloggers, it's easy to confuse shyness, or even just the emotional feelings of puberty, for anxiety. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-12313905335292651832014-10-08T21:45:06.343+01:002014-10-08T21:45:06.343+01:00I just worry that people see the amount of blogger...I just worry that people see the amount of bloggers mentioning anxiety and think that, because they're sometimes shy or nervous, they must have anxiety too. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-30992366557313188772014-10-08T21:39:19.695+01:002014-10-08T21:39:19.695+01:00I absolutely agree with your points. I also find i...I absolutely agree with your points. I also find it easier to communicate when I have space to consider my response, rather than feel pressured to answer on the spot. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-20924838385556471462014-10-08T21:38:16.924+01:002014-10-08T21:38:16.924+01:00Some people just really don't understand intro...Some people just really don't understand introversion. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-41577939307136369392014-10-08T21:37:26.323+01:002014-10-08T21:37:26.323+01:00It's amazing how many people think if you'...It's amazing how many people think if you're introverted, you automatically have to suffer from anxiety too. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-81220558282539852882014-10-08T21:35:39.323+01:002014-10-08T21:35:39.323+01:00I know I definitely use the iternet to socialise! ...I know I definitely use the iternet to socialise! Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-60094917822178323792014-10-08T18:36:01.495+01:002014-10-08T18:36:01.495+01:00It's really sad that people would think just b...It's really sad that people would think just because you're introverted, you must have mental health problems. Try not to pay them any notice and remember that you're totally healthy! Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-61724118681052892912014-10-08T18:30:22.130+01:002014-10-08T18:30:22.130+01:00Ooh that sounds really interesting. Thanks for the...Ooh that sounds really interesting. Thanks for the suggestion! Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-65121619305006304552014-10-08T18:28:58.457+01:002014-10-08T18:28:58.457+01:00I absolutely agree with this, but there's a bi...I absolutely agree with this, but there's a big difference between being shy or introverted and having anxiety. I think a lot of people get the two confused and end up self-diagnosing. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-65461266360355615272014-10-08T18:28:05.446+01:002014-10-08T18:28:05.446+01:00Yep, suddenly everyone thinks "Wait, I get an...Yep, suddenly everyone thinks "Wait, I get anxious sometimes. I have anxiety!" and I think it's a dangerous assumption. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-11227720817340702012014-10-08T18:26:45.537+01:002014-10-08T18:26:45.537+01:00Thank you, Rebecca. You always write such lovely c...Thank you, Rebecca. You always write such lovely comments. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-20064287500082091112014-10-08T18:26:17.870+01:002014-10-08T18:26:17.870+01:00That's interesting. I definitely feel the same...That's interesting. I definitely feel the same pressure. It feels like everybody is talking about anxiety so, if I do so, it will seem like I'm just "following the trend", if you will, and almost belittles the condition. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-76350020108364630432014-10-08T18:25:15.989+01:002014-10-08T18:25:15.989+01:00Absolutely! (I love you xx) Absolutely! (I love you xx) Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-11149559340284921142014-10-08T18:24:58.834+01:002014-10-08T18:24:58.834+01:00Absolutely! There is a huge difference between peo...Absolutely! There is a huge difference between people suffering from anxiety and people who are a bit shy. I honestly think that unless you've been formally diagnosed, it's dangerous to start bandying the word "anxiety" around. It creates a false perception of the condition. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-47889297138804814252014-10-08T18:23:48.892+01:002014-10-08T18:23:48.892+01:00Yep, I think that's the issue. I'm not for...Yep, I think that's the issue. I'm not for a second suggesting people are lying but I do think people tend to self-diagnose and get confused. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-73682649765233106512014-10-08T18:22:12.210+01:002014-10-08T18:22:12.210+01:00This is very true! A lot of people with anxiety fi...This is very true! A lot of people with anxiety find it easier to communicate online but I do also think there's a lot of people self-diagnosing themselves. Anybody who feels shy or introverted is convincing themselves that they have anxiety without seeing a doctor. Becky Bedbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244007124287785151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-79052908420649314952014-10-02T01:53:45.837+01:002014-10-02T01:53:45.837+01:00Great post Becky, I hate how people seem to separa...Great post Becky, I hate how people seem to separate people into two separate groups, introvert and extrovert. I wouldn't use either of these words to describe me at all! People are much more complex than that, as you pointed out :)<br /><br />Not sure I agree with the bandwagon bit about anxiety though, I think it's just a lot more common than you think! Plenty of people who aren't bloggers will have it too, it just seems like it's all us bloggers because we have created a community where people feel safe enough to open up, and ask for help, and offer help. So bloggers who have anxiety have an outlet! It's great that we are accepting each other and have somewhere to speak out! Not that I have written any posts about it, bit too personal for me, but I always read others posts on it :) I think there is a positive way of looking at this bandwagon! We're on the bandwagon together to help each other! Wow that was cheesy, I'm gonna shut up now haha xoxo<br /><a href="http://amberluiselove.blogspot.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">amber love</a>Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00964366310770990969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-24309066571006420252014-09-26T19:45:32.409+01:002014-09-26T19:45:32.409+01:00I am very much an introvert but like you once I...I am very much an introvert but like you once I'm with people who I feel comfortable with or in a comfortable space then I am confident and it continues to build up. I love absolutely nothing more than being in my safe space on my laptop interacting with the blogging world, but I also have times when I need to be outside and taking up running has made that easier for me as I can get out for half an hour be in the countryside and have a clear head.<br /><br />I think along with some others in the comments that people with anxiety do socialize more online because it's easier to form friendships and speak to people without physically doing so. It can make it look more like a bandwagon but also once people start speaking out others also want to speak out. I was thinking of writing my own blog post on anxiety as someone who has only recently started suffering but I think there are people like you who will and do write it much better than I could, yet I might just do it anyway. x<br /><br /><a href="http://bethtinkerbell.co.uk" rel="nofollow">Beth Tinkerbell </a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03352305227911105345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-18624266408283611882014-09-24T21:10:52.262+01:002014-09-24T21:10:52.262+01:00I think what it is, for me anyway, about discussin...I think what it is, for me anyway, about discussing anxiety via a blog is that a) it's a safe, mostly non-judgemental (there are always assholes) space to discuss feelings or worries without having the added worry of feeling stupid while telling them to an actual person, and b) it's comforting to write these things out, sort of admit it and get the thoughts arranged. Like mini therapy you can do at home :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02664850623434787238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-40935184548776642072014-09-24T20:23:59.859+01:002014-09-24T20:23:59.859+01:00Every single one of those points rang so true with...Every single one of those points rang so true with me. I'm shy and introverted, but being cooped up inside all day drives me battty (as does being alone all the time) and with the right people (and maybe alcohol) I'm confident. It's a bit tiring being told I can't possibly be introverted because of x/y/z. I don't have anxiety, though I have my own diagnosed crazies. Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11305985389342051037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-25519187117407728312014-09-24T05:02:19.386+01:002014-09-24T05:02:19.386+01:00I think maybe people are finally starting to open ...I think maybe people are finally starting to open up about talking about mental health? I hate bandwagons too as I always want to be somewhat unique, but hearing others talk about anxiety made me realize I could at least mention my issues. I definitely agree that introversion and anxiety aren't traits that necessarily go hand in hand though! I'm not really an introvert but I have bouts of health anxiety that keep me up at night. Not the same as generalized anxiety but still an issue nonetheless. I'm interested to read your post about anxiety!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17015161846956232802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-4932276779252896942014-09-24T02:08:41.191+01:002014-09-24T02:08:41.191+01:00I'm naturally shy and introverted, and I also ...I'm naturally shy and introverted, and I also suffer from anxiety and I think most people think all three are mutually inclusive. You're so right; they're not! I'm far more confident than I used to be, and I love to socialise, go out in public, and be around people... but I just need a little time to myself every day to recharge because I also find socialising exhausting. It's who I am no matter how shy I'm feeling, or how much I'm struggling with anxiety. I think bloggers coming out as introverted anxiety suffers all of a sudden could be because large numbers of introverted people and anxiety sufferers use the net to 'socialise' and form friendships without having to leave the house and be around people. Louise https://www.blogger.com/profile/00662177575354379847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-15078915354344369512014-09-24T00:49:30.152+01:002014-09-24T00:49:30.152+01:00I'm an introvert, and THANK YOU for creating t...I'm an introvert, and THANK YOU for creating this post. I don't suffer from anxiety but people have commented to me that because I'm introverted, I must be "messed up" i.e. introverted or generally suffering from mental illness. It's quite hard to listen to! Regardless of what I may/may not have, I think its good to realise there is a difference between illness and personality type. <br />Natalie<br />www.natillie.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09737172108775086444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-28348169643101012182014-09-23T23:34:05.275+01:002014-09-23T23:34:05.275+01:00Yes, yes, yes to all of this! And I totally agree ...Yes, yes, yes to all of this! And I totally agree with you that anxiety and introversion are completely different things, I personally don't live with anxiety but I do consider myself to be deeply introverted. <br />Would recommend Quiet by Susan Cain if you're interested in reading about introversion. It's probably one of the best books I've read on the subject! XxRiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11308886639719971122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-342984045867368820.post-35041966151748215022014-09-23T22:37:11.818+01:002014-09-23T22:37:11.818+01:00Great post. I have been thinking myself about the ...Great post. I have been thinking myself about the 'anxiety bandwagon' lately but then I came to the conclusion that bloggers become bloggers as they are introverted or shy or have anxiety as it is a way to feel part of a community and make friends without having to meet people face to face. I am a naturally shy and introverted person and I like how people feel open enough to share their experiences online.<br />theemeralddove21.blogspot.co.ukThe Emerald Dovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03216600398603135786noreply@blogger.com